I’ve had several visitors lately, and I noticed something different about myself. I wasn’t nearly as focused on being a constant source of entertainment.

In the past, I could make myself a little crazy planning everything and trying to make sure everyone was having a good time. We’ve actually had visitors tell us afterward that we wore them out because we did too much. For our last visitor, I’m sure we probably seemed a little boring, and I didn't mind.

I still care about being a good host, but I’m getting much better at not reading into every mood and deciding it means I need to fix something. I may not even be interpreting the other person correctly and yet I could still end up reacting as though I know exactly what they’re thinking.