Resilient Mind: Creating Calm in the Chaos

I’ve been talking to a lot of people lately. Between my business, newcomers finding their way in Seville, and random coincidences that seem to bring people into my path, I’ve had countless conversations.

What’s clear is that the toll of living in today’s world is real. There are prejudices to confront, life changes to endure, and emotions running high everywhere.

When I speak directly to women, I’m not minimizing anyone else’s experience. I simply have to speak from what I know, as a woman from Oklahoma, raised by loving, complicated hippie parents who didn’t always know how to handle their own pain.

I haven’t experienced everything or lived through all forms of discrimination, but I’ve dealt with bullying, low self-esteem, being dismissed, overachieving to prove my worth, and learning how to find and use my voice.

I’ve experienced love, heartbreak, grief, frustration with continually carrying the mental load, motherhood, perfectionism, people-pleasing, guilt, moving abroad, eternally learning Spanish, starting a business, empty nest, perimenopause, and occasional terror about the world we live in.

And what I'd like to share with you is how we can stay calm, focused, and resilient when life, or the world, feels chaotic.

The Weight of It All

Some days it feels like we’re all just waiting for the world to end. The headlines, the uncertainty, the constant sense that something else is coming.

And even in our own homes, many women are carrying an invisible mental load that feels heavier than ever. It’s the running list in our minds, the awareness of what needs attention, what might go wrong, and how everyone else is feeling, often without realizing how much it costs us.

As someone who cares deeply about the world, there are days when the mix of sadness, guilt, and helplessness feels like too much.

I want to stay informed and engaged, but I’ve found that constantly absorbing the world’s pain doesn’t make me more compassionate or more effective. It just leaves me drained and sad, and how is that helping anyone?

What Real Resilience Looks Like

Last year, as a new coach, I was invited to learn more about mental fitness.

Not the kind that tells you to “think positive” or “push through,” but the quiet, daily work of noticing your thoughts, choosing where to place your focus, and reconnecting with the wiser part of your mind that knows how to respond instead of react.

That’s the foundation of real resilience.

A Gentle Reminder

That’s what this new series, Resilient Mind: Creating Calm in the Chaos, is about.
Learning to care deeply without carrying it all.
Finding stability inside ourselves when everything outside feels uncertain.

So if the world feels crazy right now, pause for a moment. Feel your feet on the ground. Take three deep breaths.

You don’t have to fix everything to make a difference. You just have to begin with yourself — one moment of calm at a time.

Reflection Question: What helps you find calm when everything feels uncertain?

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