One person told me people often come to him when they need someone to listen but rarely listen in return. He insisted he had no resentment and quickly said, "But that's okay. That's just how people are now."

Maybe it really is okay for him. Helping people may genuinely give him energy. But trying to maintain a positive outlook can sometimes keep us from admitting that something doesn't actually feel okay.

People can value us and still not understand the value of our time. Sometimes someone really is being inconsiderate, but I think a lot of the time they simply don't realize what they're asking.