You’re Allowed to Want More

Many women feel ashamed of wanting more.

More rest.
More meaning.
More connection.
More support.

They think, “I’m more fortunate than a lot of others, I should be happy with what I have.”

And I get it, because I’ve lived by the shoulds and should-nots too.

The Weight of “Should”

I told myself things like:

• I should be grateful I have a good job.

• I shouldn’t long for more when my family is healthy.

• I should always show the best version of me.

I was so concerned about being liked, being dependable, being “good.”

But underneath all of it, I didn’t feel like I was doing something meaningful.

There was a mask, one I wore so well that even I started to believe it.

Giving Myself Permission

It took time, and a lot of unlearning, but I finally gave myself permission to want more.

And not just more on the outside, more within.

More alignment with my values.
More truth.
More me.

A Gentle Reminder

“Should” is often the voice of fear or guilt, not truth.

You can be grateful and still long for something else.

Desire isn’t selfish. It’s sacred.

You are allowed to want more than survival. You are allowed to want what lights you up.

So take 3 deep breaths, and let me ask you gently:

Reflection Question: What is one thing you secretly wish for but don’t feel “allowed” to want?

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