Every partnership is made up of two people doing the best they know how, shaped by the stories and survival strategies of their childhoods and lived experiences.

For some, safety meant avoiding conflict, staying quiet, not rocking the boat.
For others, safety meant speaking up, taking control, or fighting back.

Neither is wrong. They’re strengths that once kept us safe.

But over time, those same strategies of perfectionism, avoidance, control, people-pleasing can quietly sabotage our relationships.