The Patterns We Share
Personal Growth, Mental Fitness, Leadership Adrienne Vivar Personal Growth, Mental Fitness, Leadership Adrienne Vivar

The Patterns We Share

One thing I loved about facilitating these past couple of weeks was seeing similar lightbulb moments with people in very different stages of life. It also reminded me how meaningful it is when something I care about is genuinely useful to someone else.

My Organizational Behavior students are finishing their first year of university, many just starting to think about how and where they want to work. The educators in the Mental Health for Teens course have 13–30 years of experience supporting students.

In both, people connected most with the idea of saboteurs and mental fitness. Saboteurs are the inner patterns that can take over when we are stressed, like the Judge, Controller, Pleaser, Avoider, or Hyper-Achiever. Mental fitness is the practice of noticing those patterns and building the ability to pause and ground ourselves before we react.

For some of my students, that meant truly understanding not everyone thinks the way they do. They started to see how their self-saboteurs affect the way they react to challenges and the people around them. Many had been taught to avoid conflict, and several told me they now see that healthy conflict can be better for everyone involved. They also appreciated how much they value a positive work culture, especially after watching Office Space. 😉

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You Don’t Need to Be the Expert to Lead Well
Personal Growth, Leadership, Facilitation Adrienne Vivar Personal Growth, Leadership, Facilitation Adrienne Vivar

You Don’t Need to Be the Expert to Lead Well

A lot of people hold themselves back because they believe they need to be the expert in order to lead something well.

A couple of recent conversations with friends and colleagues helped me rethink that.

They helpfully reminded me: what if the value is not in knowing everything but in how you guide people through the experience? The content may be the same, but the person leading it changes the entire experience.

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Self-Trust in Practice
Self-Trust, Mental Fitness, Personal Growth Adrienne Vivar Self-Trust, Mental Fitness, Personal Growth Adrienne Vivar

Self-Trust in Practice

I’m writing this from my layover in Istanbul.

I thought I might cry when I walked out the door, but honestly, I’m just so excited, and I know the time will fly by. The train derailment so close to home has been shocking and puts everything into perspective. It’s also made me feel extra grateful and really loved by everyone who wanted to see my face one more time, and by all the care and concern for my safety.

Per usual, the anticipation was worse than the reality. I had a few nights with very little sleep, but now I feel calm and capable. Most of all, I feel grateful.

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