The Mental Load of December

December has a way of piling on. So many friends and clients I know approach December feeling some combination of tired, anxious, or just overwhelmed.

They are often the one who notices what everyone needs, keeps the calendar straight, plans the gifts, handles the food, and tries to create something meaningful for everyone. Others might be happy to help when asked, but the thinking part, the remembering part, that lives with them.

Even the small things add their own pressure. Whether it is keeping certain traditions alive or trying to make the season special for the kids, those added responsibilities often fall on one person.

It's not just about the holidays either. There is end of year work pressure, school events, financial stress, family expectations, travel, emotional dynamics, and a general sense of trying to hold it all together. It is a lot. More than most people acknowledge.

It’s no wonder you might feel overwhelmed (and guilty about feeling that way).

A Simple Way to Lighten the Mental Load

Here is one small thing that can help, especially when your mind starts overthinking.

Before you rush into the next task, pause and look at the thing you are about to spend your energy on.

Ask yourself:

Is this part of the 20 percent that truly needs my extra attention, or is good enough actually good enough today?

If it falls into the 80 percent that does not need your perfection, let it be simple. Let it be imperfect and still complete.

Then choose one thing you can hand off: a chore, a message, a small decision. Ask clearly and without guilt. Bonus points if it is something you never want to mentally track again, like a gift for your partner's grandma or coordinating the date the families will get together.

You deserve to breathe a little more easily this month.

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